Is Life Perfect ?

Let’s just take a minute shall we,think to yourself is your life perfect, see celebrities as an example. They get fame, glory, fans but… their life is always a question mark?…

Just ask them how is their life, they will say no. Every celebrity whether rich and famous, everyone has a dark secret. As someone would say everytime:

Life isn’t perfect

The world that we live in doesn’t allow for perfection. But not having the perfection you wanted is still ok cause you can do something.

Perfection is overrated. Life is more interesting, more fun and brings more adventure when it’s not perfect. It’s time we accept that life will not be perfect and start living the life that we dream of anyways!

So during my holidays, I read some interesting lessons on this psychology and even communicated some psychologists.

You see some that Life is always hard, it comes always when you come to career, you have to decide, think of future, our life has no rest. You finish your college you go to job, you retire and grow old. Where’s the fun in that.

You see life is not that all an enemy. It’s wonderful but yet challenging. So let’s just discuss as to how we can make life fun.

So just close your eyes, just think you’re in the classroom or room, now take a piece of paper and think to yourself. Think about yourself, now draw in the piece of paper and draw your soul. I’m sure 70% will be thinking what to draw, now just open your eyes and you can see you’re life is blank. You see we are always living in an invisible world. See you cannot explain yourself by biology, your psychology. This all we need to figure out about ourselves. You know our life will always be hard. But… there’s something in which we can make life quite fun, the best thing to get rid of making life boring is music. You see music is the best tool to get rid of tough problems. Music has always been the solution since Ice age. Music here helps us all the time, in recovering memories. Makes you free.it lights up our brain. When music comes in our mind, it gives us ideas. Music sooths our mind so we can adjust our life. This music can solve math problems, good memory mind, get good grades. So music really helps.

So you see guys,The truth is, life isn't tough. Nor is it easy. It's just your life. Things seem tough when you're down. Things seem easy when you're up.

I sympathise with some of the responses showing conditions that, were I in them, I would truly regard myself as being in a tough position. But that’s not really answering the question: it’s showing you why the question seems unfair to those who suffer greater than you. Giving an objective answer to a subjective question isn’t answering it. This kind of response is a little unhelpful and it’s also ignoring the fact that suffering is relative to your own experience. If you go around comparing your life to other’s then you’ll develop either bitterness or vanity; both of which will increase your suffering.

Everyone suffers. Queens suffer when their hair won't behave, beggars suffer when they go hungry, I suffer when I don't get 8 hours sleep. Just because it doesn't sound like suffering to you, doesn't make it any less tough for the person experiencing it. Sometimes (like when I lost my job, girlfriend and home in a few weeks of each other) I've suffered greatly. Sometimes beggars get beaten when they are hungry, sometimes Queens get sick and publicly humiliated on TV.

Now, take these points together and we're seeing something like the truth of the situation:

Changes for the worse in anyone's situation increases suffering. Changes for the better decrease it. We become acclimatised to almost any situation in time and suffering decreases as we approach that equilibrium. The opposite is also true. We can become desensitised to happiness and comfort to the point where minor things like straightness of hair or that extra hour of sleep mean the difference between happiness and suffering (subjectively).

What can we learn from this?

We can remember that happiness or suffering is an experience that gives our past and our future context. We cannot have ups without downs, nor downs without ups. We must experience change and must accept it when it comes. There are no straight lines in nature. The best way to handle this is like a big swing or a roller-coaster. Let go and enjoy the lightness (and the view) from the top. But draw in, grit your teeth and keep your core strong when you are at the bottom (everything feels heavy when you’re there).

So before I end, I would like to quote a verse said by Andy Grammer

Life is hard, but there are moments, sometimes hours - and, if you’re really lucky, full days - where everything feels just right.